Wheat belly is the concept introduced by Dr. William Davis that propagates the elimination of wheat from your diet to lose weight. Dr. William Davis is a cardiologist and has had a number of patients who were overweight and wanted to control their risk of heart disease. In his bestselling book…
High Self-Esteem is a Thing of the Past – Focus on Improving Your Self-Compassion Instead
Ever since modern sociologists could remember, all the rage was about improving self-esteem. Some countries even went so far as to implement state-level programs aimed at boosting children’s self-esteem. It was believed that the move would decrease teenage pregnancies, drug and alcohol abuse and lead to less violence. The results were beyond disappointing. It was soon clear that improving self-esteem actually means curing the symptoms, and not the cause.
So what does this mean? With the onset of pressure to build up confidence, there was also an explosion of narcissism. This is especially visible on social media and people posting bold pictures of themselves or tweeting “I’m awesome”-type statements. Science backed the trend by proving that between 1987 and 2006 as many as 65 percent more people scored higher in narcissism compared to previous generations.
What does this say? Basically, self-esteem is a consequence of good behavior, and people should work on improving self-compassion instead. Being self-compassionate means not beating yourself up when you screw up. People who forgive themselves are less prone to anxiety and depression, and are less likely to feel ashamed or take criticism too personal. This is not the case with people having high self-esteem.
To sum up, it is important to know that we are not perfect, and that there is no point in striving towards perfection. Instead, being self-compassionate brings people calmness and self-esteem is a natural consequence of behaving in the right way.